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Answers to the questions you may have about Aurelia.

Intentional, provider-minded and age-gap relationships, generosity, roles, privacy, first dates, meeting across cities and Founding Membership.

For provider-minded, age-gap and all other intentional relationships.

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Relationships and membership

Practical answers before you apply or meet someone.

Relationship intentions

What is an intentional relationship?

An intentional relationship begins with a clear understanding of what each person wants, what they bring and what they expect from each other. It can take many forms. The important thing is being open about your intentions and finding someone who appreciates the relationship you want, before you become invested in someone whose expectations are different.

Aurelia puts intentions at the heart of every profile, helping you understand what someone wants, what they offer and what they expect before you connect.

Can I be open about the relationship I want on Aurelia?

Yes. You can be as open and direct as you want about the dynamic you seek, and discover people who appreciate it.

Your Aurelia profile lets you express the lifestyle you seek, the generosity you value and the roles you prefer. You can make clear what you offer, what you expect in return and where your boundaries lie.

Understanding intentional relationships

Provider-minded relationships

What is a provider-minded relationship?

One partner enjoys contributing financial stability or material support, together with care and attention. They may be the sole financial provider in the relationship. Both people bring qualities and contributions that the other values.

Aurelia allows you to be open and direct about the lifestyle you seek and the generosity you value.

Is Aurelia only for provider-minded relationships?

No. Aurelia welcomes provider-minded, age-gap and other intentional relationships. Your Aurelia profile lets you describe the relationship you want, the qualities you value and the role you would like to take.

Understanding provider relationships

Age-gap dating

Do I need to be looking for an age-gap relationship?

No. You can seek someone of a similar age or someone significantly older or younger. All applicants must be at least 18 and meet Aurelia’s eligibility requirements. On Aurelia, your age preferences are part of the relationship you choose to pursue.

What should an age-gap couple discuss?

Talk about life stage, work, family plans, independence and how much time you want together. Be direct about the future you each want, rather than assuming that age tells you what the other person expects.

Finding common ground across an age difference

Generosity & expectations

Does Aurelia welcome generosity and financial support in relationships?

Yes. Aurelia welcomes relationships where generosity, financial support and lifestyle expectations can be discussed openly and without judgement. Whether you enjoy providing, being supported or sharing a particular lifestyle, your Aurelia profile lets you express what you want, what you offer and what you expect in return.

How can we discuss generosity and expectations?

Your Aurelia profile allows you to explain what generosity means to you, whether that includes financial support, shared experiences, time or attention.

Be clear about invitations and spending so both people are comfortable with the plans. A gift, an expensive evening or luxury travel never creates an obligation to offer affection, intimacy or another meeting.

Can a generous relationship leave room for independence?

Yes. Talk about work, friendships, finances and time alone, as well as what you want to share. Both people should be comfortable with the relationship’s expectations. Financial support does not give one partner authority over the other.

Talking about generosity and expectations

Roles & relationship dynamics

Can I be open about who takes the lead?

Yes. On Aurelia, you can describe whether you enjoy taking the lead, being supported or guided, or sharing different roles. Be open about the dynamic you want, what you bring and what you expect in return, so others can understand what would suit you.

Do we have to fit a particular relationship dynamic?

No. Aurelia welcomes different ways of relating. Your roles can reflect your preferences and complementary strengths, rather than a fixed model. Use your profile and conversations to explain what feels right for you and discover people who appreciate it.

Exploring roles and relationship dynamics

International relationships

Can I connect with people in more than one city?

Yes. Choose where you’d be open to meeting someone and indicate your willingness to travel, whether close to home or somewhere new. When Aurelia launches, you’ll be able to connect with members across all cities.

Explore Aurelia cities

Privacy & discretion

Will applying to Aurelia create a public profile?

No. Your application details are reviewed confidentially. If your application is accepted, you can prepare your profile for review and choose your visibility, contact and sharing preferences.

Having your profile approved does not make it public or open member access. Your profile remains private ahead of launch.

How much should I share before a first date?

Share enough to make a comfortable plan. You do not need to disclose your home address, workplace details or usual routine. Keep contact details and private photographs to yourself until you choose to share them on Aurelia, and agree before posting about each other publicly.

Privacy when dating someone new

From conversation to meeting

What makes a good first date?

Choose a public place where you can talk comfortably, with a journey that works for both of you. Coffee, a cocktail bar, a restaurant or a visit to a gallery or concert can all work. Agree the time and place, arrange your own transport and leave room to decide whether you would like to meet again.

How can we decide whether to meet?

Use your conversation to explore what you each want, what you enjoy and whether your expectations feel compatible. When you’re both interested, agree a place and time that suit you. You decide when a connection is ready to move beyond messaging.

From conversation to a first date

Membership & getting started

How do I become a Founding Member on Aurelia?

Begin with an application, which is personally reviewed. If your application is accepted, you can activate your account and prepare your profile for review. Once your profile is approved, you’re welcomed as a Founding Member.

Age, photo and identity checks are required before members can connect.

What do Aurelia Founding Members receive?

Founding women receive complimentary Full Membership for life. Founding men receive three complimentary months, followed by a permanent discount on monthly membership fees. Both receive permanent Founding Member recognition.

Additional benefits include:

  • Priority support
  • A permanent Founding Member badge
  • Curated connections
  • Early access to new features
  • Access to future events
  • Priority invitations for people you refer

Full Membership requires age, photo and identity checks.

Can I prepare my Aurelia profile before member access opens?

Yes. If your application is accepted, you can prepare your profile and set your privacy preferences ahead of launch. Application acceptance and profile preparation do not open member access; connections become available when Aurelia launches.

Membership

Your membership benefits

A carefully selected membership, the freedom to be completely open about what you want, and the privacy and personal support to explore it with confidence.

A selective, verified membership

Every application and profile is personally reviewed, with identity, age and photo checks for greater confidence.

Profiles that lead with intentions

Say what you really want. Be open and direct about the lifestyle you seek, the generosity you value and the roles you prefer. Make clear what you offer, what you expect in return and where your boundaries lie.

Space to express yourself fully

Create your profile with simple selections and guided questions, capturing as much or as little about yourself as you choose. Include preferences, requirements, and personal and intimate details that other profiles often overlook. Every member builds their profile in the same way, helping Aurelia connect you with people who offer what you want and value what you bring.

Open to the relationship you want

Aurelia welcomes provider-minded, age-gap and all other intentional relationships. You can be as open and direct as you want about the dynamic you seek, and discover people who appreciate it.

Personal support and human oversight

Every application and profile is personally reviewed. The Aurelia team is here to offer individual guidance, answer questions and respond to concerns, with care and discretion.

Privacy on your terms

Choose who sees your profile, what they can see and who may approach you. Decide when to share additional personal details, private photos and videos as you take a connection further. You’re free to change or reverse your choices at any time.

Secure and discreet private messaging

Women can send a Private Invitation to a man who interests them, opening a conversation directly. Men can send a Private Request with their profile, which the woman can review and accept before opening a conversation.

Conversations can be ended at any time, and you remain in control of further contact. Your personal contact details stay private until you choose to share them. Aurelia’s dedicated sharing options are available to you.

Intelligent discovery and connections

Aurelia identifies where your intentions, preferences and expectations align with those of other members. Explore for yourself or review automatically suggested profiles. You decide who interests you and whether to connect.

International possibilities

Discover members across the world, wherever you live or travel. Choose the cities where you’d be open to meeting someone, whether close to home or somewhere new.

Private reveals

Share more when you’re ready. Go beyond your visible profile and share additional personal or intimate details, private photos and videos. Choose how much to reveal and when, as a connection develops.

Your Aurelia social profile
Your public profile link
aurelia.dating/your_profile_name
Your Aurelia username
@your_profile_name

Both use the profile name you choose.

Activate an optional public profile to share on social media or with someone who interests you. Choose what appears publicly, such as photos, your profile name, age, location and a brief headline. Your contact details stay private. Anyone wishing to contact you does so securely through Aurelia, allowing you to review their verified details before continuing the conversation.

Founding Member benefits

Be recognised as part of Aurelia from the beginning, with permanent Founding Member status. Founding women receive complimentary Full Membership for life. Founding men enjoy three complimentary months, beginning when Full Membership becomes available to them, followed by a permanent discount on monthly membership fees.

Other benefits include priority support, a permanent Founding Member badge, curated connections, early access to new features, access to future events and priority invitations for people you refer.

Full membership, exceptional value

Our current membership offers include complimentary Full Membership for women and a choice of monthly, quarterly or annual plans for men, with transparent pricing and savings on longer plans.

Founding men receive an additional permanent discount on monthly membership fees, while Founding women secure complimentary Full Membership for life.

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